This is a hard topic to write about because it's a hard thing to deal with, and I don't think there's a "do this and you'll love your body" solution. That would be saweeeeet though!
Although I really don't like to dwell on how my body looks and what I don't like about it, it does happen from time-to-time. I think all women struggle with this in some way (whether we want to admit it or not). I've noticed myself doing it more since being pregnant, and especially since I had Piper. It's hard when you're not in control of your body and it continues to get bigger and bigger and then BAM - she's out and you're left with a body that looks and feels nothing like it used to!
I am noooo expert on the matter. This is my first baby so I'm sure you seasoned mum's have more tips up your sleeves, but as a new mum whose dealing with this all for the first time - here's what I'm finding helps me:
FOCUS ON WHAT YOUR BODY JUST DID!
I hate when people say stuff like, "just don't think about it", because ummm...hello - that doesn't work! Just "focusing on how incredible your body is" won't make any insecurities go away, again that would be saweeeeet if it did! I can't just stop myself from thinking about how my body has changed...SO instead of focusing on what I don't like, I focus on what I do like. Yes, I'm still aware of my flaws, but when I focus on what I like about my body...I don't seem to care about them as much. They don't bother me because I know my body is more than that.
Pregnancy is such a remarkable thing. Truly. It blows my mind how my body just grew a human in my stomach by itself. It nourished her while she was growing, and is continuing to nourish her now with this perfect milk-formula that contains absolutely everything she needs...AND continues to change to fit her needs as she grows! Like what??? That's insane!!!!! Be proud of what your body did! I am!
IT WON'T LAST FOREVER!
This one helps me the most! Since having Piper, my body is continuing to change and improve every day. I would have loved to be back to normal the very next day (and as silly as it sounds, part of me kind of expected that?)...but my skin stretched out for 9 months so it takes time. I realize that my body probably won't be the exact same it was before, but it's okay because it'll be SO much better! I may have extra skin, and I may have lost muscle and be a lil' squishier in some areas, but this is a temporary (and sometimes sucky) time! It's just a phase. It will pass and things will improve!! Yippee!
Obvi I'm going to bring this up because when I eat like crap, I feel like crap. Add that to not feeling good about how my body looks and it's a recipe for disaster! Instead of burying my head in a tub of ice cream, I focus on fueling my body with high quality foods, and I feel SO much better about myself! I feel like I'm not just complaining about it, but I'm actually doing something about it...instead of just eating junk and feeling bad about the fact that my body has changed.
Okay obvi I'm going to bring this one up too. Just like with my diet, it helps me feel in control because I'm doing something to help my body through this transition. PLUS it releases endorphins and happy people don't kill people -they just don't. (Name that movie! Legally Blonde. Okay thanks). I have more energy when I workout and I don't want to lay on the couch like a beached whale watching Netflix. That isn't going to help anybody! Plus, plus good nutrition and exercise help your body lose fat and firm up...so that's a pretty good reason too!
I think this is a constant challenge and not something that goes away overnight, BUT I know that changing my mindset and being proactive has really, really helped! I am proud of what my body did, and these changes are so, so worth it because I now have a perfect little girl - and my body is so much stronger because of it!